If someone calls me a name or talks about me on another forum, chances are I won't know about it. Unless someone comes back and says "Hey, did you hear?..."
That is so irrelevant. My point is that you condoned foul-mouthing outside your forum, and then having those members come to your forum expecting everything to be hunky-dory and it would be water off your back.
Unless you are a Vulcan, I find that very hard to believe.
Which seems to be the case, because in my PMs with DFN, his idea of the things going on weren't exactly what was going on... almost as if someone were being selective in what they told him.
If you think that DFN based whatever he did on mere gossip, without looking at the thread itself on the FFP, boy, you sure underestimate our mods here, and in particular DFN's character.
As I told DFN in our surprisingly cordial PMs,
Why use the word surprisingly ? What, were you expecting him to insult you or get bitchy just because they were PM's ? As I said, you unfortunately seem to know very little about DFN.
Even so, I honestly don't care. Your opinion of me (and I'm using your in the general sense, not you specifically) is your opinion of me and unless you're in my family or meatworld friends, it carries very little weight. I would hope that my opinion of you would carry similar weight with you.
If you are indeed a mod on a forum, those opinions you seem to care so little about are the very ones that would create a decent level of respect between you and the forum’s members.
Dude... if you think that a website forum moderator should or does have as much authority over you as your real world job boss, you need to take a break from the internet.
I have no real world boss. But I do understand respect, and with all due of that to you, seemingly more than you do.
That is the problem nowadays. Many people treat respect on the internet very differently from real life. Which is wrong, and is exactly the opposite of what I do. I treat them as one and the same. What you see of me here, how I act, what I say and what I do, and especially how I react, is exactly what you get in real life of me.
It was just an analogy about a level of mutual respect. If that is broken, you get fired. On a forum, you get banned. So in you books, besides the insults, its also OK to have your private messages made public elsewhere ? I see you conveniently failed to comment on that, both as a ‘normal’ person, and as a mod yourself.
A warning here and the situation that arose is not a bannable ‘offense’. A warning is simply an indication that a rule has been broken and to please not act in a similar fashion in the future. SNK seems to have taken it way above what the situation warranted.
And I am the one who should take a break from the internet ?
Gimme a break dude.
In case you missed it, I also mod at a forum. At no point have I ever considered myself "the boss." At most it's like mall security. I enforce site rules. Since I mod in a Politics forum, we tend to take a lighter touch due to discussions being a little... ah, livelier than normal. At no point would we even dream of telling someone that if they talked about us on another forum we would ban them. We have a little thicker skin than some, it would seem.
Maybe a better analogy. Granted. Still, it is not wise to foul-mouth the cop or the mall itself, is it ? If you don’t like the mall, the cop, or the people that go there ….. don’t go ! So simple.
Also, this is not the forum you moderate. You seeming to think you can make a comparison with that may be the root of our disagreement. Different rules, and apparently stemming from that, very different views about what respect means.
Thick skin has got absolutely nothing to do with this.
If anyone is so displeased about this board, its mods and its members, then they should just leave.
Oh wait, as SNK said over at FFP, he doesn’t want to be permanently banned from here, so foulmouthing over at FFP is cool.
Great – I want to play in your yard but I won’t respect you or follow your rules.
Hypocrisy at its very best.
