Yep, POTC and Jack don't get much attention in this neck of the woods!
However, for those who remain ever loyal........
UM to answer your earring question......
Any kind of earring is going to be irritating if you're not use to wearing them, but none so much as an accursed clip on!!
You can do a couple a three things to help alleviate the discomfort. No material, save perhaps a wispy spider web, is going to be light enough to make an earring that doesn't pull and weight your ear down, pierced or not......
For clip on earrings you can try some kind of foam pad, they sell them specifically for earrings. Some are adhesive, some little cushion sleeves that slip on over the clip. But you can also use pads like those to put on eyeglasses nose pads, or those corn and callous relief stick on things. Cut to fit the front and back of the clip on for a little cushiony comfort from the pinching, but it won't do anything for weight and pull discomfort.
Depending on the look you are trying to achieve, you could try using a
French Hook that hooks over the top of the ear like India women use to hook those big, elaborate and heavy earrings they wear onto.
It hooks over the top of the ear like a blue tooth ear hook, and in fact, one similar to
this one could probably be modded to hold an earring dangle....
this kind of remedy distributes the weight over the entire auricular appendage instead of pulling your ear lobes down to you arm pits....
One other solution is to use an earcuff earring that has an attatched loop for adding dangles to it--like
this one, remove the chain and stud....though you can find them made for the purpose with just a loop on it........
Goes on like this....
....you can even use some needle nose pliers to bend the regular hook on a dangle earring into a cuff tight enough not to fall off.......
This puts the weight and pull on that cartilage instead of the lobe.
If none of these seem to work on their own, try some combination, like cushions on the earcuff or French hook, or try adhering the French hook to the side of the head behind the ear with some surgical glue to further help distribute and hold the weight. Maybe use a French Hook or earcuff to help support the weight of a cushioned clip on...........
Shylaah