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KristinaLeigh
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LMAO! I totally read that in Cartman from South Park voice...haha
AVA: LOVE your Terracotta warriors! What a great idea!
Here's my FB Like page: https://www.facebook.com/KristinaLeighCosplay
Eveningarwen
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I'll post my FB link even though it's on the bottom of my signature...but just in case it's not visible...I think the big photo goes to my webpage.
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Evening-Arwen-Custom-Costumes-and-Corsets/100023860114
Also just to throw into the nasty comments from others I am so there with you guys. When I first did my Trek Corset I had these waves of comments. The first time it hit was mostly awesome response. The second time was still mostly awesome that started to degrade into nasty and lots of sexual innuendo. Then the last time the photos surfaced around the internet and got popular it did nothing but bring out the nasty vile comments and super mean hurtdul comments. On both the Trek and my Star wars corsets. Here is a sampling of what was said:
-Pasty white bitches
-I'd do them with a bag on their head
-That chick looks like a busted up version of the girl from House
-There were many many arguments about my "fat thighs"
-How I'm obviously a **** and all other manner of things of that nature and how somehow everyone that commented had had a "go" with me.
-How I looked constipated in my photos because I was to thin to be wearing a corset and my company (you know, my company of one....me lol) should have hired professional models.
-How I was to fat to be wearing corsets.
-How my costumes were good from far but far from good and how many people always had a gf or bf who was a much better costumer and seamstress then me.
So yeah.....it went on forever and when it first happened...ugh, I was so furious and upset at the same time. I mean you know in your gut that people are going to be like that but sometimes it doesn't matter and it still gets to you. After a while I really had to force myself to stop looking at comments and realized that if my stuff was popular enough to be noticed it was because my work was good and enjoyed by the majority and who cares about the sad few at home who probably do nothing else with their life then sit and wait for moments for them to complain about.
Also my fav is when I get other women (and sometimes men) talking about how sexist I am because I like to take unisex or male designs and fit them for the female body. I got that a lot on my Snape jacket. How it would have been better to just make the male version for myself and how people like me stereotype that women should be different and be forced into "sexy" clothes like my Snape jacket because we are women. I always though that was hilarious. I'm glad that you might look good in a boxy mans jacket but I have boobs and hips and I do not look good in a non form fitting garment.
Rant over lol!!!!
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Evening-Arwen-Custom-Costumes-and-Corsets/100023860114
Also just to throw into the nasty comments from others I am so there with you guys. When I first did my Trek Corset I had these waves of comments. The first time it hit was mostly awesome response. The second time was still mostly awesome that started to degrade into nasty and lots of sexual innuendo. Then the last time the photos surfaced around the internet and got popular it did nothing but bring out the nasty vile comments and super mean hurtdul comments. On both the Trek and my Star wars corsets. Here is a sampling of what was said:
-Pasty white bitches
-I'd do them with a bag on their head
-That chick looks like a busted up version of the girl from House
-There were many many arguments about my "fat thighs"
-How I'm obviously a **** and all other manner of things of that nature and how somehow everyone that commented had had a "go" with me.
-How I looked constipated in my photos because I was to thin to be wearing a corset and my company (you know, my company of one....me lol) should have hired professional models.
-How I was to fat to be wearing corsets.
-How my costumes were good from far but far from good and how many people always had a gf or bf who was a much better costumer and seamstress then me.
So yeah.....it went on forever and when it first happened...ugh, I was so furious and upset at the same time. I mean you know in your gut that people are going to be like that but sometimes it doesn't matter and it still gets to you. After a while I really had to force myself to stop looking at comments and realized that if my stuff was popular enough to be noticed it was because my work was good and enjoyed by the majority and who cares about the sad few at home who probably do nothing else with their life then sit and wait for moments for them to complain about.
Also my fav is when I get other women (and sometimes men) talking about how sexist I am because I like to take unisex or male designs and fit them for the female body. I got that a lot on my Snape jacket. How it would have been better to just make the male version for myself and how people like me stereotype that women should be different and be forced into "sexy" clothes like my Snape jacket because we are women. I always though that was hilarious. I'm glad that you might look good in a boxy mans jacket but I have boobs and hips and I do not look good in a non form fitting garment.
Rant over lol!!!!
Lora
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Yeah, me either. Who goes up to men and says, "You're as pretty as a girl!" as an insult?
I have to work hard to look like a guy -- and I'm apparently pretty convincing, because I've had girls come up and flirt and ask me out while I'm in costume. It lasts until I say something in response, at which point they usually shriek or back away saying, "I'm sorry; I thought you were a guy!" Kind of hilarious.
Hahahaha! I would so want to see that! :lol Except for that one time I've never had anyone mistake me for a guy, which isn't surprising since I'm a tall woman with long hair, wide hips and a slim waist.
But I don't really have any guy costumes (disregarding the Desert Sons costume), so the change of me being mistaken for a guy is pretty slim.The above advice from Guri is good! Mine is more philosophical: Don't ever NOT attempt a costume because you think it's beyond your skill level. Your first attempt won't be perfect, but in the process of making it, you'll learn how to do it better, and your skills will improve. Plus, if it's a costume you love and really want to make, you'll be motivated to stick with it and see it come together!
When I started cosplaying, I didn't know ANYTHING about sewing; I barely passed home-ec class and had no real-life interest in any kind of crafting. My first cosplay was literally held together with safety pins and duct tape, and it wasn't until my third costume that I borrowed a sewing machine to play with. But I loved costumes, so I kept trying new things even though I wasn't really good at it, and through trial-and-error I learned new techniques. Now I'm a Masters-level competitor -- and I actually know how to thread the sewing machine and stuff! It's still amazing to me!
I SECOND THIS! Rule number one of cosplaying; always carry safety pins with you. This can save the day and keep almost any costume together even when it's threatening to fall apart. Glue is not a bad thing either. And an emergency pack of thread and needle for quick repairs.
Also pick out something YOU WANT to do. This is important. If you don't really want to do the costume, chances are you'll give up when it frustrates you and then won't finish it. Find something you want to do, maybe there's some movie or tv character that you love, and who you would like to emulate.
And then research the hell out of the costume before you start making it, so you know you've done your best to get it right. It's about getting the feel of the costume right and finding those funny little details.To AVA's advise about not being afraid of going over your skill level and making a terrible job of it the first time, I can attest to having made the same costume three times before I got to a point where I'm happy with the result. The first one was horrible and I made so many mistakes. But I also learned a lot, in particular what not to do.
Trail and error. We all have to go through it.
faille
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Uggggghhhhh so sorry to all the ladies who deal with the ****ty comments from others. I've been lucky enough to not stumble on a lot of that yet, though I don't put my stuff out there much either. Worst I've seen on me is that I look like Ann Coulter. I think I was more offended at being linked to her politics than her look, hehe. But I knowwww it's out there.
Eveningarwen, your Lady Snape jacket is my most favorite thing on your site. It's so wonderful. And modest considering the comments you've received on it.. wtf??
AVA, your terra cotta warrior costume is such a great idea and looks amazing
thorssoli, I hope your boobs have good health insurance because your back must be aching!
CelticRuins, your Dorothy and Scarecrow couples photo is my favorite of the ones you posted!
mdb, you are beautiful and so is your work. Looooove the Satine!
Eveningarwen, your Lady Snape jacket is my most favorite thing on your site. It's so wonderful. And modest considering the comments you've received on it.. wtf??
AVA, your terra cotta warrior costume is such a great idea and looks amazing
thorssoli, I hope your boobs have good health insurance because your back must be aching!
CelticRuins, your Dorothy and Scarecrow couples photo is my favorite of the ones you posted!
mdb, you are beautiful and so is your work. Looooove the Satine!
Eveningarwen
Well-Known Member
Hahaha yeah I know! I was like.....A buttoned up to the neck, knee length, long sleeve black wool jacket is sexist and to sexy??? Ok.
CelticRuins
Sr Member
As you rightly should, cause I totally did! :lol
Thanks faile!
And friggin' a Becky! People need to check what they're saying. You're one of the most talented seamstresses out there, and you're gorgeous!
But again, you gotta look to your fellow costumers for support sometimes. I know there's some nasty "costumers" out there, but for the most part, atleast I like to believe, that everyone is welcoming a nice. I know that's not always the case .
Pimperella
New Member
I had a sewing machine Leather needle snap, fly off and end up stuck in my forehead. Was 7 to 8 years before I could use a sewing machine again. I took a day course to refresh back into it.
It's taking over the house to be honest. So glad I have a Crafting Hubby. (He's spent the weekend model painting and making himself a gaming board)
Don't you just. I know I have been in tears this last week over the 'Dress Factor Finalist' dress I have been making. I messed up on the mock up cause I was tired. I cried so much, couldn't sleep that night but eventually it just came to me what I needed to do.
To the fabric discussion: I'd probably be a fabric horder if I had the space and money for it.
Was best day of moving here when I found the fabric warehouse at bottom of my road, however, I have spent a fair bit of money there lol
Didn't know to post any pics when I introduced myself, so here's a little bit of what I do and what not.
2 day build, except the gun which was purchased by someone else online.
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and other kinds of stuff.
Awesome!!!!! My son would go mental for a Bumblebee Costume like yours.
My niece was recently bullied at school for liking Lolita type Costumes and loving brightly coloured Wigs. Thing is, poor kids hair is falling out due to her illness. We made a huge thing of her coming to Manchester Comic Con this year, Glad we did cause she was Best Junior in the Cosplay and has been all over the net on websites and in magazines, Been a massive boost to her just when she needed it.
Sick really isn't it. Would they come up to you and say it to your face? No. Because they can hide behind a keyboard and ***** away it makes them feel good. I had the same when I was modelling. I did a lot of Nude Art Modelling for Collages aswell as Photographic art. It was Art aswell and NOT Porn. But the sick comments I got from that. Even some people at Uni who shunned me for doing Art modelling even tho the Collage I was working for was a Council owned and Run one. I hated being put into the same category as Porn tho. I understood that I would get comments like that but not so far as people actually thinking that the stuff I did was even in that League. Or male friends thinking I was easy because of it. Each to there own but as long as you stay strong and disregard the comments of evil.
MaulWalker
Sr Member
Ava - your terra cotta warriors are wonderful! That is on my list of future costumes.
Lynn
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EHyde
Member
Sometimes it seems like people always equate "female version" with "sexy version" like there isn't any other possible reason for a woman to dress as a male character in a way that's flattering to her natural shape.
KristinaLeigh
Well-Known Member
Eveningarwen:
To you and the others who have posted that people have gone out of their way to make nasty comments about you or your costumes...Those people just say stuff like that because they are jealous and threatened by your talent and self-confidence. They feel they have to strike out and take you down a notch so they can be more equal to you...but they just end up making themselves look worse. Just do what you can to ignore their negativity.
To you and the others who have posted that people have gone out of their way to make nasty comments about you or your costumes...Those people just say stuff like that because they are jealous and threatened by your talent and self-confidence. They feel they have to strike out and take you down a notch so they can be more equal to you...but they just end up making themselves look worse. Just do what you can to ignore their negativity.
I've seen some really nasty comments even from people I know regarding strangers in someone else's feed on facebook. Last time I saw it, I was so ticked off by it I ended up posting 'Unless you are a fitness model, I wouldn't be commenting on the fitness of the ladies in this photograph, take a good hard look in the mirror first.'
I put myself out there at cons in costumes I make. I also work very hard at being fit. Unfortunately there are some real jerks out there that need to make themselves feel better by criticizing others.
I put myself out there at cons in costumes I make. I also work very hard at being fit. Unfortunately there are some real jerks out there that need to make themselves feel better by criticizing others.
CelticRuins
Sr Member
A thousands times, this!
Wow, Becky I am appalled but sadly not surprised by the comments that people have made. Much is out of jealousy, or ignorance, or because they themselves couldn't do what you do. But sadly, I know a part of it is just that some peopleare nasty simply for the sake of being nasty and will say horrific things that they would never say to your face but because you are just a "photo" on the internet, it's ok to bash because a "photo" doesn't have feelings. It's just honestly so disgusting and is really hard not to get angry. I had some pretty awful comments posted on Chubbs' Wampug video, I got called the "C" word for putting my dog in a costume. I was called an animal abuser, and all kinds of awful things. I'm a friggen veterinarian, I think I know how to take care of my dog and make sure she doesn't overheat. But some people just don't care and they just want to be ugly and hurtful for the fun of it. The best we can do is try not to let it bother us, and do our best to make sure we think about the consequences of our comments and how it may impact someone else.
Eveningarwen
Well-Known Member
You know what it is...I don't even mind the "she's fat" or "she's fugly" comments that get me. I mean, yeah they're mean and pathetic but it's usually the comments that define you as a person that get me. The "she's a ****" or "she's sexist". Also the comments of "they should hire professional models". It shows such a lack of intelligence on their part because they obviously know nothing about me or my site when they say stuff like that. They're judging everything based on one photo and not on my business as a whole. Or they don't take the time to sit back and think "Hmmm it's the same girl in every photo so it must be the person who owns the business or possibly a family member or friend. Maybe they can't afford pro models".
Same thing with you Kristen. When someone calls you the "C" word or says you're an animal abuser without any of the facts of who you are as a person it becomes infuriating becomes they aren't making an opinion about you physically but are defaming your character to others. Again, I know it's going to happen and you have to just let it roll off your back but that is where my anger comes from. That element of who are you to make that comment when you have no clue who I am? Make all the fat and ugly comments you want but leave the opinions as to my character to yourself. Or at least be able to claim that you've met me once before forming an opinion.
Same thing with you Kristen. When someone calls you the "C" word or says you're an animal abuser without any of the facts of who you are as a person it becomes infuriating becomes they aren't making an opinion about you physically but are defaming your character to others. Again, I know it's going to happen and you have to just let it roll off your back but that is where my anger comes from. That element of who are you to make that comment when you have no clue who I am? Make all the fat and ugly comments you want but leave the opinions as to my character to yourself. Or at least be able to claim that you've met me once before forming an opinion.
mdb
Sr Member
Oooh a good one!
Aside from what Guri and AVA have already said (Holla) I have a few other things
I sometimes forget just how much stuff I have in my brain already. It's not just costume theory and practice it's also art history, social history (as opposed to learning dates and wars) a lot of science nerding and stres of modern graphic art.
All of this means I can usually spot where a designer has taken inspiration or patterned directly from. And it helps to problem solve. Build up a library of art that inspires you regardless of where it is from
It's also taught me to love the bizarre- Guardainfantes and early Mantuas I am looking at you....Also practice. If you are too nervous to go headfirst into a project then get scraps and play. Ask for off cuts of plastic at sign shops and learn how they take paint or how you cut them. Home renovation stores often have off cuts if you ask, otherwise yard lengths of tubing, pipe and other bits and bobs are reasonable to practice with.
Tools and stuff to stick things to other things are usually where the costs mount up.
Think of it as "Experimenting, for Science!" rather than practice drills and it will help
You can also use it to make small test props/accessories that can be built up into larger projects.I'm one of those head first kind of people. But this is still something I want to get better at! Patience grasshopper.
Also mess is a natural side effect. It's taken two decades for me to at least tidy after myself every few days. It's another good habit to practice- keeping the mess under control!
Edited to add: rock on everyone
Glad to see we are all being supportive even when discussing difficult topics (online bullying should *not* be a fact of life to be just accepted) and yay, will sign into FB properly and like everyone after a rest and sewing some buckles )
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I deal with the "too fat for that" comment a LOT! What so many people don't realize is that the pressure put on costumers is RIDICULOUS! Not only are we trying to mold ourselves into characters, but characters who are mostly 2D and who are drawn with absolutely unrealistic proportions, colors and shapes.
I know I am not the only costumer who struggles with eating disorders.
I also know I am not the only costumer who feels she is backsliding into bad eating habits before EVERY convention while PRAYING that some photographer or passerby doesn't HAPPEN to snap a photo of her while her fat roll is poking up over her corset. Only to come home to find EVERY photo of her has a fat roll poking up over her corset.
I know I'm not the only cosplayer who is constantly told "You're beautiful ... don't you DARE care what others say about you" yet still cries herself to sleep knowing that they they are probably right but still unhappy with her own minds eye.
So, for all the girls who feel they are fat, ugly, skinny, bow legged, short, tall, weird looking, short sighted, near sighted or just shy ... you are not alone. We have chosen a hobby where all of the focus of our craft resides on OUR bodies. Which makes us prime targets.
Just wanted to offer my heart and support.
I know I am not the only costumer who struggles with eating disorders.
I also know I am not the only costumer who feels she is backsliding into bad eating habits before EVERY convention while PRAYING that some photographer or passerby doesn't HAPPEN to snap a photo of her while her fat roll is poking up over her corset. Only to come home to find EVERY photo of her has a fat roll poking up over her corset.
I know I'm not the only cosplayer who is constantly told "You're beautiful ... don't you DARE care what others say about you" yet still cries herself to sleep knowing that they they are probably right but still unhappy with her own minds eye.
So, for all the girls who feel they are fat, ugly, skinny, bow legged, short, tall, weird looking, short sighted, near sighted or just shy ... you are not alone. We have chosen a hobby where all of the focus of our craft resides on OUR bodies. Which makes us prime targets.
Just wanted to offer my heart and support.
Lora
New Member
Well said, Aktrez.
When I see people posting ****ty comments to some pic of someone not comforming to whatever social standards they're expected to comform to, I always try to leave a positive comment myself as a counterweight.
E.g. today I saw a pic of a guy in a catwoman costume. He was not of a 'perfect' build or feminine, but his costume was great and well made. There were a few comments of 'WTF?' and the like so I replied with 'Brilliant!', because I really think it's brilliant and nice to see a guy crossplaying. Women do it all the time, so why shouldn't guys do it, too?
When I see people posting ****ty comments to some pic of someone not comforming to whatever social standards they're expected to comform to, I always try to leave a positive comment myself as a counterweight.
E.g. today I saw a pic of a guy in a catwoman costume. He was not of a 'perfect' build or feminine, but his costume was great and well made. There were a few comments of 'WTF?' and the like so I replied with 'Brilliant!', because I really think it's brilliant and nice to see a guy crossplaying. Women do it all the time, so why shouldn't guys do it, too?
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...should be required reading for anyone intending to view comments about him/herself on the internet.
...should be required reading for anyone intending to view comments about him/herself on the internet.
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