Hey ladies, I have a question for you that I've been wanting to ask for a while but I'm a big time lurker (look at my post count!) and never seem to post...
I'm Kat and I've been costuming for ~8 years or so though I still have way too much to learn. I'm married to another costumer (Aideon). We met at a con through the 501st - I was a b**** to him and he fell madly in love with me, of course
Anyway, here's my question: For those of you who are in relationships with fellow costumers (married or dating), do you ever have trouble sharing the work on a costume project or asking for help from your SO?
For my costumes, I always feel like I need to make everything or its not really my costume, which is utterly stupid but something I haven't been able to get over. My husband constantly offers to help me with things that aren't strong skills for me (anything involving moldmax, resin, styrene, etc and the tools that live in the garage) and I feel guilty for letting him help me. He did my helmet and armor for my TIE pilot and even though I made the jumpsuit and Officer's hat myself from scratch, I feel like I didn't really make that costume.
And YET, whenever one of his costumes requires sewing, which is my stronger skill compared to him, I have no problem helping him by doing parts for him and I still feel like its his costume that he made. I lecture him that we are a team and that we work together but in my head, I have this weird double-standard where its cheating if he helps me. I've started to get away from that recently but I find it still haunts me at times. Anybody else out there who suffers from that or am I just my own unique brand of crazy?