I think this is the big thing. And I get it. I was at the theaters watching Star Wars when it was literally just "Star Wars" -- the "A New Hope" title wasn't even conceived yet. It's been a big part of my life for the overwhelming majority of my life. I truly get caring so much about it.
But I also think that's part of the problem.
Sometimes people lose sight of the fact that the Star Wars universe is so vast and has been around for so long that it can mean different things to different people. Different aspects of it can be a "favorite." And more importantly, we as fans can choose which parts of it we don't care for.
Debating the details, even passionately, can be fun. It's part of fandom, to some extent.
But there are people out there, many of them making YouTube videos, declaring authoritatively that Star Was is now ruined, that the whole thing is going down in flames, and we should all rise up against whatever Disney is doing -- all because whatever Star Wars property is out now isn't for them. It doesn't have to be. The other stuff is still there.