The Mighty Gray
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This is it now.. egh.. I'll take it..
So My girl Destroys My Iron Man Helmet, right?
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Fly4v
Sr Member
Most people can't pull off thoughtful and vengeful rage at the same time. :wacko
So wait...your GF, in a fit of rage, tore apart something you were working on that was precious to you...and now you're back with her again??!
Have you ever heard the term "stop being a doormat and start being a slamming door"? If someone treats you or your stuff like that, do you honestly think they WON'T do it again? You need to set your boundaries. If she doesn't respect them, then show her the door. There are plenty of other women out there who'll treat you better than that.
I don't care how beauitful, nice, apologetic, or free spirited a woman is; if she shows me crazy like that, she's not worth my time. Let someone else hope on that train wreck.
Have you ever heard the term "stop being a doormat and start being a slamming door"? If someone treats you or your stuff like that, do you honestly think they WON'T do it again? You need to set your boundaries. If she doesn't respect them, then show her the door. There are plenty of other women out there who'll treat you better than that.
I don't care how beauitful, nice, apologetic, or free spirited a woman is; if she shows me crazy like that, she's not worth my time. Let someone else hope on that train wreck.
I agree but at the same time it depends on what OP did. bottom line though: if they can't talk about it like an adult and have to resort to fits of childish rage, i'm done. I'm sure if you were mad at her and tore up clothes or a bag you may not be here to post this thread :lol
TymerDC
Sr Member
I agree with ED209.......time to get rid of the problem. No telling what else she'll destroy down the line that you can't replace or rebuild. I don't care how hot she may be...it aint worth it continuing living with a hot headed crazy woman.......unless you like this sort of thing.
I'll also add that if you stay with her after you've been shown this huge red flag and she does it again then you deserve everything you get.
I'll also add that if you stay with her after you've been shown this huge red flag and she does it again then you deserve everything you get.
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DP74
Member
Dude, that's STILL better than I could ever do in the first place man. I have to just save up the ridiculous amounts of cash and patience and buy a suit! You're crafting the thing with your two hands from scratch and it's wicked. Same token, that's not someone that's healthy for you, man. That's a big, fat red flag. If she'd do that to you, what ELSE is she capable of. Not to speak ill of your woman or anything, you know, we don't know the full scale of the relationship. Some people like the hot pepper type coz the make-up stuff is that much hotter, you know? lol
Although....man she went WAAAAAAYYY too far. You don't wreck a man's craft. You just don't. My wife would never do something like that, then again, that's why I married her. I never do anything to **** her off that much and she's reasonable. She got slightly annoyed once. I got the silent treatment for a few hours. Sucked big time. lol
Ok, rambling. Good work on the resurrection!
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tonykch
Well-Known Member
I agree. Back before I got married, my (now ex) wife displayed signs of a destructive behavior. She would smash things she thought were important to me when she got upset. I never had the "lightbulb" moment though, and went ahead and married her.
Cue 12 years later, when we are going through a divorce. By this time I had become an antiques dealer, and had about $10K worth of antique glassware in the house. My ex systematically took every piece of glassware in the house down to the basement, and smashed it against a wall. Then she got in our brand new Chrysler 300 and put that into a light pole. And told me it was my fault.
People who destroy things are the same as people who hit. It's abuse, just in a different form. So the question you need to ask yourself is, "Do I want to be in an abusive relationship?"
EyeofSauron
Master Member
tony i wouldve sued her.
tonykch
Well-Known Member
Don't worry - the cost of what she destroyed was taken out of her portion of the estate.
Freya Willia
Well-Known Member
opcorn
Capn_Jack_Savvy
Sr Member
She found you were spending too much time alone with your Iron "man-helmet" and not with her?
Harkonan Nebula
Active Member
I agree: drop-kick her butt to the door, MightyGray.
If she wants to destroy something she owns, fine. But when someone puts their hands on something you crafted and destroys it, that's the time to explain to her in no uncertain terms that her time with you is OVER. If she really loves you, she would not involve something you built in one of her little fits of fury.
If she can't control her temper and confine it to the matter at hand, SHE'S DONE. End of story.
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I'm in agreement with everyone here.
If she's willing to destroy something you spent a lot of time and/or money creating over a single argument, then what will she do down the road when the two of you are having a serious drawn-out argument?
This time it was an end-product. Next time it could be something substantially more valuable, such as an expensive piece of equipment used to create the props.
Her destructive behavior is extremely immature, better suited to a three year old throwing a temper tantrum than a full grown adult. If she acted like an adult, she would have confronted you over the issue at hand, not taken it out on an inanimate object in petty revenge.
You need to tell her to kick rocks and not look back.
Of course, I'm the type of guy that, when a girl breaks up with me, I will not take her back. If your should-still-be-ex thought one argument warranted a breakup, then obviously she doesn't think enough of the relationship to begin with and is not worth your time and effort.
If she's willing to destroy something you spent a lot of time and/or money creating over a single argument, then what will she do down the road when the two of you are having a serious drawn-out argument?
This time it was an end-product. Next time it could be something substantially more valuable, such as an expensive piece of equipment used to create the props.
Her destructive behavior is extremely immature, better suited to a three year old throwing a temper tantrum than a full grown adult. If she acted like an adult, she would have confronted you over the issue at hand, not taken it out on an inanimate object in petty revenge.
You need to tell her to kick rocks and not look back.
Of course, I'm the type of guy that, when a girl breaks up with me, I will not take her back. If your should-still-be-ex thought one argument warranted a breakup, then obviously she doesn't think enough of the relationship to begin with and is not worth your time and effort.
tubachris85x
Master Member
This is why I make it clear to all the girls I date that my props/collectables are very important and to not touch them unless I'm around. Every ex I've had has understood this and were afraid to go near any of them.
Not one ex has ever destroyed my stuff...Kick that woman to the curb, teach her some respect.
Not one ex has ever destroyed my stuff...Kick that woman to the curb, teach her some respect.
martcpl705
Well-Known Member
Can we see a pic of this lovely lady who tore iron man apart?
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